Fudge

Uneducated people like me are allowed to ask stupid questions, aren't we? So here's my stupid question of the month:

How does gravity escape a black hole?

Update: (less than an hour later)

E gad, another stupid question... That makes two in less than an hour...

Isn't the Big Bang proof that things can escape from a black hole? I mean, how can all the mass of the entire universe be squeezed into something the size of let's say a pea and it not be a black hole? So if it was a black hole and it went ka-boom! how did anything escape?

The answers that educated people give to questions like this don't seem like answers at all. They seem more like fudge.